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Codependency

What is Codependency?

Wondering if you may be codependent? Here are some characteristics of those dealing with this disorder:

- I assume responsibility for others' feelings and behaviors.
- I feel guilty about others' feelings and behaviors.
- I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.
- I am afraid of my own anger, yet sometimes erupt in rage.
- I worry about how others may respond to my feelings, opinions, and behavior.
- I have difficulty making decisions.
- I am afraid of being hurt and/or rejected by others.
- I minimize or deny how I truly feel.
- I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.
- I am afraid to express differing opinions or feelings.
- I value others' opinions and feelings more than my own.
- I put other people's needs and desires before my own.
- I am embarrassed to receive recognition and praise or gifts.
- I judge everything I think, say, or do harshly, as never "good enough."
- I am a perfectionist.
- I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
- I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.
- I do not perceive myself as lovable and worthwhile.
- I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others' anger.
- I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.
- I am afraid to express differing opinions or feelings.

In its broadest sense, codependency can be defined as an addiction to people, behaviors, or things. Codependency is the fallacy of trying to control interior feelings by controlling people, things, and events on the outside. To the codependent, control or the lack of it is central to every aspect of life.